What Do You Do

What do you do with someone who tells you what you want to hear instead of what they really think?

What if this person is very close to you?

What if you've made major decisions based on what this person has told you, only to find out later what they said wasn't really the truth?

Why can't people just be honest? Why can't they realize that hurting my feelings now is a lot less painful than hurting me really badly months or years later?

Why is it so hard for some people to just be honest? Telling someone a half truth or lying to them so they'll feel better is still lying.

Is this person manipulative? Deluding themselves? Trying to fool me? What do they gain from telling me complete and utter bullshit just because they think I'll like that better than the truth?

Some things can't be undone. Some decisions can't be unmade. People you supposedly care about deserve the whole truth.

Otherwise, they'll wake up one day and realize that their entire relationship with you has been a lie.